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Divorce is difficult and stressful.
When a marriage ends, spouses and their children (if any) frequently encounter a whirlwind of difficult choices and stressful changes : new schedules, living arrangements, court-ordered parenting classes, issues and decisions about marital and personal property and, of course, money.
In Maryland, getting married is easy; but, getting divorced can be much more difficult.
Try to keep it civil. Here's how:
(1) Rarely does anyone "win" in a divorce action. The process is simply not designed to create winners and losers. It is designed to apply unbiased law and equity in the ending of a marriage pursuant to Maryland law and procedure. I always advise my clients that our goal is to help them successfully "survive" this difficult emotional process. Divorce is survival of the fittest; and the fittest is usually the more civil spouse with a competent attorney. Rarely do divorcing spouses end up with everything they want. Be realistic.
(2) " Measure twice, cut once." Do not make important decisions in a divorce action without consulting with your attorney nor without thinking the decision through very carefully. Many life-changing decisions can come up during a divorce action. Resist the temptation or impulse to make quick decisions just to get the case over with. When making important decisions ---such as what to do with the marital home --- it is paramount that you consider carefully the potential consequences. Ask questions.
(3) Beware of "rubberneckers", gossipers, friends and others with free divorce advice. Even though well-meaning, do not necessarily believe everything other people tell you about their divorce -- or about the issue of about. In over thirty years of representing clients in numerous divorce actions, I have learned that each and every divorce is unique in its facts and consequences. There is no universal template for all divorce actions. Each and every divorce has a different set of issues.
Listen attentively to the advice you receive from your attorneys, financial consultants, mental health
counselors, etc.; all of whom should be familiar with your case. Ask questions.
(4) Concentrate on the "big picture." Focus not so much on the past, but on the future. Try not to continuously think about all of the bad things that happened during the marriage. Think and move forward with "big picture" in mind. Focusing on the past hinders you from moving forward with the future.
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